Total Life Change: The Dame, The Dog, and the Dao

Total life change is one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done.

Change begins with choice.

As young adults, we embrace these choices. It is the first time you can change your world, for many of us, freed from the rules and expectations of others, to the degree we are comfortable unfettering ourselves.

We start our careers, find life partners, move from one city to another, discover new foods, new music, arts, interest, and hobbies, and we may travel and explore the world. It is a great adventure.

By the time we are ready for retirement reinvention, we’ve been knocked about by life. We recognize that the voyage to change your world is not always the idyllic cruise of our youthful imaginings. I am comforted when I feel as if I am following the dao, the right path, for me.

This infographic portrays the three areas of learning as I embrace my total life change.

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Home is all about this Dame. I am a Taurus, and my home is my sanctuary.

I spent several months doing online research about where to live, coordinating real estate prices, climate preferences, and kennel club locations. During a drive from North Carolina to South Florida, I did drive-bys of 14 homes in four communities in which I did expanded drive-throughs to check out the neighborhoods.

I could not have accomplished this time-consuming research without a GPS. This was my first experience with one. It was heaven to be freed from maps and pulling over to read them.

I already knew that my budget affords marginal neighborhoods.

This long day of driving narrowed my search down to one area of St. Augustine and resigned me to manufactured housing. Change begins with choice, and making these decisions are necessary toward taking actionable steps.

Now I am educating myself about manufactured housing, including what to look for, whether to buy a used mobile and transport it to my own lot (yes), the differences between cement pads, runners, and pilings (also called footers), utilities hook-ups, and cost of transporting the unit.

An unexpected benefit of this has been two long, nice conversations with my bro who knows a great deal about mobile homes and construction. Our relationship has not always been easy for either of us! I appreciate having his expert advice.

Simultaneously, I have been educating myself about health testing for Doberman Pinschers and updating my knowledge of the great breeding kennels in the US.

I am making slow progress on the dread financial and legal front, a part of my life I have been putting off for decades – so why rush into now as I close in on 70? That’s an ironical aside. Without this part of my plans supporting home and dog, no matter how right it may feel, there can be no dao.

There are days when I consider no longer having my campus job as a touchstone of my reality. My work has been a large and important part of my identity. Not having this income makes total life change seems as fearsome as entering the cave of Daenarys’s dragons.

Mostly, my retirement reinvention is giving me a renewed sense of vibrancy, energy, and life.

Doberman Pinschers: Breeding Counts

Breeding counts for Doberman Pinschers, perhaps more than for many other breeds. They are powerful, intelligent, and have a strong drive to relate to humans.

Last night, I was studying the bloodlines of the late great L’Ombre. My heart beat a little faster when I reviewed the many outstanding champions in his background.

The World of Doberman Pinschers does a fine job of tracing the histories of the great kennels in the USA and other countries. (This site earns a small commission if you click through from this ad to the amazon site.)

It also explains the basic principles about the breed I learned from the breeder and the excellent trainers at the Baltimore Kennel Club who taught me to handle this animal of distinction.

Most people just want a family dog who won’t dirty in the house, is fun for the kids, likes to chase frisbees, and barks without being aggressive when strangers come into the yard.

And that’s enough for most people.

Dobermans may make excellent family pets, but that is not what they were bred to do.  Their outstanding intelligence and train-ability is squandered.

Chaining a Dobe to stake in the yard and slopping food and water down is a crime. It is not wonder these super-brains and super-athletes of the dog world go nuts in such circumstances.

Upon announcing my plans to train another Doberman, a reader of another site remarked on my fur baby.

I never considered L’Ombre my baby; he was my best friend and my guardian. We were a team. Training becomes a dao — a path that you follow together in almost telepathic communication.

I urge anyone considering adding a Doberman Pinscher to your home to do your homework. Do you have the time and interest to make full use of the considerable abilities of this elegant, powerful, and active creature?

This dame developed a bit of agoraphobia when I was dragged down 11 cement steps by a mugger. L’Ombre was my escort and was often invited to parties with me — including one Christmas dinner at my minister’s home.

I realize that over these past dozen years I have become isolated, because fear of being alone walking about still affects me. I like walking around my world and seeing the sights, so I am looking forward to this special teamwork again.

It is well worth changing my life to make it so.

 

How to Follow the Dao to Retirement Reinvention

An old flame called me, and I decided to change my life.  Probably not the way you think.

As I talked with my long-ago lover, I realized I had no photo of him nor any other around my home — just one of the man I have been divorced from for decades and will always love.

But there were two of the great love of my life, L’Ombre the Magic Doberman.

In an epiphany, I remembered promising myself I would train Dobes when I retired. And here I am, on the brink of leaving my profession with only the vaguest of plans of when and what I’d do.

The Dao Demands Change

Yet here was the dao demanding a complete retirement reinvention of my late-life self. Once the moment of insight passed, I realized with a slight hitch in my breath that I’d have to change every part of my life.

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I have to move from my pet-restricted condo and retire from my local job.

I have to re-educate myself about the breed, because L’Ombre was chosen for me by Roslyn Terhune, an expert.  She helped start the Marine Devil Dog unit in World War II. I have no Roz to make a wise choice for me this time.

I’d have to get my financial affairs in order and face all the other end-of-life details I have put off for decades.

Yet I have an inner knowing of the dao.  It is a force inexorably pulling me forward toward my retirement reinvention. .

The Dao of Retirement Reinvention

This blog is about all the details and life lessons I learn about how to follow the dao to my retirement reinvention. I hope you enjoy the ride.